LDRs are insanely hard to keep up with. The only chance an LDR has is if both people are mature, trusting, and patient. There are a few things that both people simply must adhere to or else an LDR will fail. Read on to find out what both you must have in order to survive in an LDR.
Before being separated, the two of you must be 100% loyal to one another. It is very easy and highly tempting to have a side relationship while your partner is away. How can they catch you when they’re in another country or state, right?
If you can’t be loyal to your partner when they are away how could you be loyal to them when you are together. If your partner can’t be loyal during an LDR then they are not worthy of you anyway.
On the opposite side of loyalty, you must also trust the other person to be loyal to you. If you have insecurities that make you suspicious toward your partner, then either your partner isn’t loyal to you and you know it, or you have trust issues.
I’d you can’t trust someone your relationship will be unstable. You will constantly want to know where they, what they’re doing, who they’re with, and so on. If you are asking these questions a lot then you need to change your mindset and start trusting your partner. Read Think and Grow Rich mentally to comprehend how to develop interpersonal skills with you partner.
It is very difficult to be apart for any length of time when you love someone. Having a scheduled time when you will either chat by instant message or give each other a call is essential.
Do be careful that you don’t ritualize the schedule too much. If, for example, your partner is invited to a party one night and would have to miss one of your calls, let then go! If you force them to give up on social events for you it is likely to cause a rift in your relationship. If they choose to skip an event because they don’t want to give up their time with you, then great. But if they want to go, you must let them. The same goes for you, obviously.
Don’t worry! This doesn’t mean a time to break up! If you plan to have an LDR, you really should have a scheduled time that you will be together again. This will depend on how long you will be apart.
If your partner is gone for one year then try to have a plan of meeting up either during the year or at least at the end of it. There’s no sense in being in an LDR if you have no plans of being together ever again!
Knowing that one day you can hold your partner in your arms again will greatly help you survive the difficulties that come with it. You will still run into trouble just as any relationship does. However, if you follow all these points, you should be able to effectively survive a long-distance relationship!